Buying gifts for nephews/nieces is more intimidating than I’d anticipated. Mental calculations for today’s shopping outing for Gavin & Owen’s 5th birthday:
1. Jan 3 birthday = just got Christmas presents, but doesn’t justify a crappy gift. Go big or go home! Wait, I still don’t have a job. Doh.
2. 5yr old gifts need to be fun and anticipate being used in short bursts of time, so don’t get something that requires much attention span, however, if the game is fun enough, these non-TV kiddos can probably handle it.
3. Having a winter birthday kind of stinks because your gifts are all ones that will be used indoors, but I really like those rockets!! (Clueless uncle act should work, no??)
4. Am I thinking of presents that I would enjoy rather than the boys?
5. What kind of present is suitable for a 5 year old, but doesn’t pose a choking/safety risk to a < 1yr old sister? 6. Why didn't I do this research on Amazon last week??!! 7. Don't they already have one of these? 8. Why don't they already have one of these?? 9. Phillip’s Toy Mart was made for adults, I’m quite sure.
10. Keep it cheap, quality, fun, educational, personal, unique, safe, age-appropriate and, and, and…!!
11. Maybe I’m over thinking this. :-/
I will hope for mercy. Thank goodness, I didn’t get books. (Found this on YouTube.)
Insecurity takes many forms. Identifying it as it’s taking place is done only by those mature enough to have experienced it themselves and healed from it. Telling someone all that you know on a given subject is often a sign of insecurity. Likewise, receiving someone’s over communication as insult to your intelligence only points to your own insecurity.
Speak only what is needed, and receive knowledge with grace. You will find more people ask for your knowledge and more people share it with you.
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If you’re socially awkward, people will steer away from you.
If you’re socially awkward and know it, people will accept you you.
If you’re socially awkward and point it out in a self-aware manner, people will identify with you.
If you’re socially awkward and help other socially awkward people be okay with their awkward selves, you’re Tony Robins.
Understanding who you are and being willing to accept your own faults makes you more likely to accept the faults of others. Instead of hiding all your faults and pretending to be perfect, why not accept your weirdness and lower your standards of perfection for yourself and those around you. It might just make you a hero.
When a good employee finds a way to save money, he pats himself on the back. But his manager is thinking how he can leverage that savings for other needed items.
The CEO, however, is trying to find greater profits for his shareholders and wants to find ways to increase efficiency with that savings.
Either way, the budget doesn’t shrink – until the market forces it to.
To avoid being wrong,
Blame the person.
Blame the system.
Blame the unknown.
Blame the universe.
Or take the blame and offer to help fix the problem – even if it wasn’t your fault.
When I was growing up, I went to an incredible counseling organization called Daystar Ministries in Nashville. They really helped me verbalize the difficulties I had as a kid who was dealing with a very traumatic illness. In our groups, I joined about 6 or 7 other kids my age who were dealing with divorced parents, trouble at school or any number of things that made life difficult.
One of the great things about being in a group of other kids was that I had the opportunity to learn how to interact with them with the guidance of a professional counselor. At the time, I Jim Knestrick was leading my group and he was a godsend. As we began to learn to ask each other questions, we had to think of ‘yes and no’ questions, as well as ‘deeper’ questions. What this did was force us to listen to what the other person was saying and find ways to probe further into those topics to draw out of them what was going on. The benefits to this line of thinking are enormous. By asking someone else to expound on the words they’ve already said, rather than refocusing the conversation back to yourself, it lets the other person know that you’ve been listening and you’re engaged.
In short, this was the advice: “When someone else is talking to you, think of a question to ask that will keep them talking.”
It’s this advice that makes it easy to be around people, to talk and to listen. It’s also what makes me value another person as a friend. Their ability and willingness to ask a question not only makes me feel valued, it means they find what I’m saying interesting.
Adding to this, I find that one of the most missed pieces of a conversation is the validation of a point or statement. A simple, “Hmm.. that’s interesting,” or “Wow, that’s amazing” goes a long way. Then the transition from there to a follow up question feels natural and caring.
In my experience, the heart of a godly woman is tender, sensitive and kind. Men, we must do our part to speak to that heart in the way that heart understands love. It’s one thing to love her like you know how to. It’s another thing to love your woman in the way the she understands love. Recognizing the difference and being willing to adapt is a sign of your maturity and strength.
Embrace the underdog in you. A steady, confident, improving individual will seem to come out of nowhere after years of training, but they have staying power. The highly gifted can draw big bucks with little training, but if the consistency and character isn’t there, they fall quickly.
If you are not the best in your field, keep improving and keep in mind that each practice, each new lesson you learn through failure, each time you say to yourself, “I’m going to figure this out”, puts you in a place of victory and prepares you for the long haul. Performers will talk down to themselves and refuse to learn the hard way because the expectations on their gift have defined them, not their persistence in learning a craft.
If you see a performer, tell him he’s a great person and you’ve suddenly become his hero.
In time, you will see. In time, you will understand. In time, you will look back and trust for the future because you saw the past get taken care of in my capable hands.
We are living in very interesting times. The heavens seems to be shifting in front of us and aligning for His purposes to be done on Earth. It’s like watching the seasons turn, but instead of watching leaves fall, or grass turn green, I watch the lives of friends and loved ones bud and change, and grow suddenly. Those who are surrendered to His purposes all seem to be experiencing significant change.
What’s interesting is that much of this change is bringing about things we’ve cried out for in our lives. Whether it’s healing, relationship, job change or otherwise, the face of God is turning our way. He has heard our cries and is answering us.
It was desperation for change that forced us out of the comforts of our homes. It was hope that God would heal the land that lead us to believe. It was faith that brought us to our knees to plead for His will to be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Through all the doubt, through all the waiting, our answers are coming. Soon.
This blog is not for other people’s reading pleasure. It’s not meant to make money, it’s not used to further an agenda.
This blog keeps my life in alignment, to reveal the broken pieces that I try so hard to hide in real life.
How many times have you wished you could test your thoughts out in the world to see if they were normal, but were too afraid because of how you imagined people would react? My life has been so consumed with protecting my identity, a false image of someone who has it together, that I forsake the person who lives only in the brain matter. That person who feels every range of emotion, but only physically displays a filtered, watered down, muted version of those emotions. They simply aren’t safe.
This blog allows those emotions to find a home. It’s relatively obscure and yet offers a level of risk that makes me uneasy so that I get out of my comfort zone with each post. It provides a place for me to be totally honest with the world, while not having to have these conversations with people I meet on a regular basis. This blog is far more therapeutic than for the pleasure, entertainment or informing of an audience. If someone doesn’t like what I write, it’s okay. They don’t get a vote in my joy. I write for me. It’s the only way to remain sane. I write to release the pent up words that my mind can’t construct verbally. It gives me a way to slow down my thoughts and not bore someone to death. But if this bores you, STOP READING.
All this allows me to keep my outward life and my inward life in alignment. I feel that as long as I’m being honest online, any pretenses or false identities I wear in front of other people, the two equal each other out. I’m not two-faced, but when you deal with pain on a regular basis, you must hide it for your sake and for the sake of those around you. It’s just not practical to present that side of life to friends and family and ask them to deal with it. That’s not fair. It’s also not fair to have to hold everything inside. So this is my life. Written.