Last night I had a great conversation with my brother about many things and one topic that came up was women. The following list is what I gathered from his insight and the insight he’s gained from many people when he was single.
1. Read books that married people read. From what I understand, there are some great pieces of information in those books that actually can help single people understand the opposite sex.
2. Find a girl who meets fifty percent of your ideal woman. Of the remaining 50%, half can be taught and half can be forgiven.
3. Focus on the mundane. If, like me, you’re a deep thinker and a deep conversationalist, you appreciate a similar personality. But marriage isn’t full of deep conversations. It’s about the daily life, the mundane. Find someone who you can be comfortable with in these situations.
4. Every person needs certain things to balance them out. Our friends do that for us a singles. The ideal wife isn’t going to take the place of all those personalities that currently meet our social needs. If she does, you have more problems than you realize. So don’t look for someone to replace those friends. Your friends will still meet most of your social needs, but your wife needs to be a friend, a lover and a confidant.
If you have other pieces of advise, put them in the comments. I’d love to hear your advice.